KandyBoi On Love!

Today! I've been feeling very sentimental, thinking about Love and Relationships, and Building solid ones. 

I am currently single and I have been for about 3-4 Months, but I have thought about what has led to this point, thinking about our generation and how we process things like pain, sex, love and more...

Spending some time with myself and trying to understand my heart and how I prefer to process my emotions. So today it was all about Love.... ❤️❤️❤️❤️ and I realized that a lot of us do not know how to receive or give love and I've "figured" out that we Love other people based on how we ourselves receive Love instead of how they would prefer to receive the Love. 

Some people, like myself and most of the people in my circle, we receive Love via Physical gestures like Gifts, Flowers, Travel and spending intimate time away from the constant demands of the world. And some people receive Love just simply by sharing your time with them, and I have noticed that we don't take time out to learn how the next person receives Love, we go into relationships with expectations and we don't share them with our partner. It's simple, we attract back what we put out, so you telling your partner what's required in your opinion, it's makes life easier because they would then somewhat understand your heart. 

Another detrimental factor is that we do too much for affirmation of others, especially with the age of social media boom. I just feel like that kind of intimacy should be kept private, I love enjoying my relationships in peace, I do not share images or personal moments, because they are MINE. And i feel like it keeps me whole and keeps the relationship in a bubble and that's beautiful for me. 

I also think that our generation, most of us rather. We do not know why we want to be in relationships, we have no goals for the relationships and that's based on lack of communication, and a lot dishonesty. 

How I see it, is that if I will be in a committed, long term relationship, I'd like to know that we are working and building towards something. And for me, Building a relationship is like building a Brand, and when building a brand is about growth and consistency, and always trying to do new exciting things. Reinventing yourselves, once you sit with me and tell me what's required, it allows me to be honest with myself and see if we can go further. 

Learning your partner means you will be able to protect them and keep them for yourself, especially with so much temptation in the world. 

LOL. That's it for today. I hope this touched your heart or opens you up to exploring my view of things. Knowing what you want helps establish a great foundation. 

You can give me feedback via email. 

Love 

KandyBoi 

KandyBoi on Kimora Lee Simmons

Today I'm going to share with you a book I just finished reading, it's called Fabulousity by Kimora Lee Simmons. A lady who inspires my every move in my business ventures, and it was a great read by the way.

"There are only two types of women—goddesses and doormats,” Pablo Picasso once said. Although I think it’s a pretty sexist thing to say, some part of me can’t help but agree. I think all women are goddesses, and it’s just a matter of letting that goddess-power shine—and if you don’t try to be the biggest and baddest damn goddess you can be, you are selling yourself short. Even in our society today, girls are conditioned to be demure, modest, and bashful about their achievements. I say: Enough! It’s the twenty-first century, and it’s time we defined a new model of the powerful, self-defined, sexy, and successful woman."

I have been inspired by this woman since I first got a glimpse into her life and business, this was through her reality show at the time called "Kimora: Life in the Fab Lane" featuring her Gorgeous girls, Ming Lee and Aoki Lee, who are now grown women.

Through following her every move in business and life, seeing how she constantly challenges herself has made me such a great person and I've learned to move on from things when the time is right. Kimora founded Baby Phat in the early 2000's alongside her husband at the time, Russell Simmons.

In the opening passage of the book. Kimora writes the following;

"First things first. Why did I write this? Because in the six years that I’ve been President and Creative Director of Baby Phat, I’ve gotten countless questions from girls and women asking me how I got where I am today and how they can get there too. They might say, “I want to be a designer, a model, a businesswoman.” Or, “I’ve got young kids too, and I want to feel sexy again.” Sometimes it’s just the obvious wish: “I want to marry rich and famous like you!” That’s okay, because if it’s the bling that brings you in—the big old house or the big rocks—now I’ve got your attention for what I really want to say: aspire to greatness, walk tall, and define your identity the way you want, no matter what other people say. And if you want to wear huge diamond rocks on every finger, great! Just don’t think you have to wait for someone else to buy them. (And never mind whether they’re real or fake!)"

This resonated with me because of my Bbgm movement, since it's all about encouraging women and allowing them to live with no boundaries or restrictions. And allowing them to establish and understand their worth.

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This book is a great read and encourage you ladies to get deep into it. It speaks on Love, Marriage, Business and how to be successful at Life in General. Happy Reading ❤️